Pregnancy

6 Way to Prepare for Postpartum While Pregnant

During pregnancy I had an extensive to do list, mostly to prepare for the birth, the baby, and my maternity leave from my business. But there were also a few things I did to make the postpartum process easier on myself. Here are 4 things I did to prepare and 2 that I wish I had put more of a focus on!

1. Buy flowy tops and maternity tops that will work after the baby is born. I wish I had put more of a focus on this! You have way more time to shop now than you will when you're trying to keep a newborn asleep in the stroller. I loved fitted maternity clothes that showed off my bump, so I was already in my third trimester when I started thinking about how I was going to dressy my body after baby. So shop now and stock up on flowy tops and anything that is flattering to the midsection. Also make sure you have plenty of comfy pants with loose waistbands - yoga pants, pjs, sweatpants... whatever you want to wear on days you don't need to leave the house. It's recommended to wait to buy nursing bras and you'll also need to go out and buy yourself a new pair of jeans after a month or so. And trust me, that's plenty of shopping for a new mama! (And enjoy shopping! I miss shopping leisurely now. I'm always on a time crunch!)

2. If you plan to breastfeed, find the nursing rooms and bathroom lounges at places you commonly visit. Since you're visiting the bathroom EVERYWHERE you go right now, make note of the department stores and retailers that have nursing rooms. You'll appreciate it later, because it's not something that can easily be Googled. (But if all else fails, you can also use a dressing room.) I also wanted to mention that we love our Milk Snob nursing cover, but it took us a few months to be ready to use a cover.

3. Download a baby app (and a contraction app while you're at it). The first two weeks at home with the baby will be one big blur. You'll have no sense of time and you won't remember even the simplest things. So having your phone tell you how long it's been since your baby ate will be very helpful when you can't figure how why he is crying. (Darcy is 6 months old and we're still using the app to make notes of what time he eats and sleeps!)

4. Stock the freezer. People will be so kind and bring you meals for the first couple weeks, but I don't think I needed to cook anything for the first 6 weeks of Darcy's life because we had stocked the freezer with easy crockpot or baked dish meals. And it was such a blessing! We also made a few batches of zucchini bread, muffins, and breakfast burritos that I could grab for breakfast and snacks. So whether you're making freezer meals in disposable pans or just stocking up from the freezer section of the grocery store, fill the freezer to the brim!

5. Read about babies, not just about birth. This can be an overwhelming task, believe me, I know. But you're going to be thankful that you did. Think about what kind of mama you think you want to be and read about that kind of parenting. (But also know that it might not work for your baby at all and that's okay too!) Also, find a good Facebook group or other support system that you can go to for help. You'll have lots of questions.

6. Streamline your beauty routine. Most days I don't wear makeup, but it's nice to have a quick system when I only have 5 minutes to put it on before running out the door. And if you can't buy the product at Walmart or Target, stock up. Because nobody has time to go to the store just to buy mascara.

 

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Photographing Weddings in the Third Trimester

I've already shared my best tips for photographing weddings and taking care of your body while pregnant, and today I wanted to focus specifically on planning for the third trimester. Here are 9 ways that we planned for our last 5 weddings (all done at 30+ weeks). (And if you need proof that I do NOT have a basketball under my shirt... just take a look at those poor swollen feet! Yikes!)

- Naturally, the first step is to decide how and when to tell your clients. That's a really personal decision and a much bigger topic than I can get into here. Ryan and I decided to meet personally with all of our third trimester brides to share the news and address any concerns they might have before we made our news public.

- Stop booking weddings for the third trimester. We had already booked a handful of fall weddings when we found out we were due in November, and we immediately stopped booking for August-December. We were confident that we would be able to take good care of the clients that were already on our calendar, but we also wanted to be smart and give ourselves extra time to get the editing and blogging done. (And extra time to recover from each wedding day!) Yes, that meant we had to turn down several wonderful couples with September, October, and November weddings, and that was a bummer, but we referred them to our favorite photographer friends who all do amazing work and would give them incredible experiences!

- On the booking note, don't rush back into weddings after baby either. You have NO IDEA how that's going to go. I will admit, we almost took a wedding for February. And after the bride sent us an email that she decided to book someone else, I realized how stupid that would have been. I had looked at the calendar and said to myself "He will be 15 weeks old. We'll be fine." And if we had planned to bottle feed, we probably would have been. But we didn't and we only gave Darcy three bottles a WEEK until he was about 12 weeks old. Leaving him for an entire day (including bedtime) would have been a HUGE change in our routine, and it would have taken me two full months to get us ready for that! Talk about stressful! 

- Save space in your calendar. More than you think you need! During the third trimester, you go to the doctor a LOT, even if you don't have any complications. I was also getting regular massages and doing restorative yoga to help take care of my body. And on top of that, I was trying to get our nursery ready and work ahead for maternity leave. I had plenty to keep me busy!

- Get everything else off your plate first. We didn't have weddings for the hottest weeks of the summer, so I used that time to get as many baby projects done as possible. We also outsourced our editing, which cleared up a huge chunk of my work time on wedding weeks. (What a game changer! If you haven't started outsourcing yet, pregnancy is the time to do it!) When our third trimester weddings came around, especially those last three, I knew that was the only thing I had to focus on that week. Blogging and social media was already done and scheduled. Other personal tasks had been taken care of. My only to do items were to give our couples a great experience and to take care of myself.

- Have a lightning fast workflow in place. With those last couple of weddings, I wanted the editing and post processing done ASAP. Even though I knew in my brain that the baby wasn't on the way quite yet, and my body wasn't giving me any signs that it was go time, I still felt an immense pressure to get things done quickly. It had to be done perfectly and it had to be done now! I was nesting my business hardcore! And since I already had a solid client workflow in place, I could easily run down the list of to do items for each client, getting them done in record time without feeling anxious that I was missing something!

- Have a backup plan. Ryan and I have a small network of other husband-and-wife photography teams that we know really well. We share our Google calendars with each other, so we can send referrals when we're booked. I knew at least one of them was available for each of our third trimester wedding days, so about 8 weeks before (when it was unlikely that they'd get an inquiry of their own), I asked them to put one of our wedding dates on the calendar. If Ryan and I were unable to do the wedding because I went into labor early, the husband-and-wife team would go in our place (with all of our client information about the event) and we would do the editing and finish the process with the client. If I was on bed rest for some reason, one of the photographers would join Ryan for the wedding day. Having this process (and the rate they would be paid) spelled out in advance was such a relief for us even though we were confident that we wouldn't need it. (It was also important for us to assure the couple that we had everything under control. We didn't want them to have anything to stress about!)

- Bring an assistant if you need it. Even if you're not sure that you need it. We had a 3rd shooter for our final wedding and an assistant for the one before that. I let my brides know that I would be bringing someone along a month or so before the wedding (and that I would take care of their dinner) but I waited until a week before to make the decision on whether we needed an assistant or a 3rd shooter. Our assistant was a super sweet past bride and her tasks were to carry a bag for me with snacks, water, and my clipboard. (Ryan carries the majority of our gear.) She reminded me to sit down when we had a short break, held my camera when I ran to the bathroom, and stood in line to get me a soda during cocktail hour. She also brought me things that I left across the room. (That felt a little silly, but I knew that every chance I had to sit down instead of walk across the room would help me bounce back quickly!)

- Use a 3rd shooter to give yourself breaks while still covering the entire day with the number of photographers you promise in your contract. For our final wedding, we asked my friend Lauren to be our 3rd photographer. Lauren is a lead photographer as well, so I trusted her 100% to cover everything that I would normally do. I took lead during most of the day (like getting ready, the first look, and portrait time), but I sat down and let Lauren and Ryan photograph the ceremony. I also took a few 15 minute breaks during the dancing portion of the reception, leaving Lauren and Ryan to cover everything. Three photographers might seem like overkill, but there was no way I was going to miss the wedding unless I was on bed rest, and I knew having Lauren would allow me to relax and rest a little bit, which helped me recover more quickly.

 

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Tips for Photographing Weddings While Pregnant

When wedding season stretches over 6 months of the year (if not more), photographing weddings while pregnant is kind of inevitable. But it's also something that very few photographers share tips about (at least according to Pinterest). And since I had a hard time finding tips from other photographers, I'm sharing my best tips here to hopefully help someone else!

- Whatever anti-nausea thing works for you, have it with you at all times! I didn't have a lot of morning sickness, but I always made sure to carry peppermint candy and water with me.

- Carry as little as possible. Have your 2nd photographer carry the extra lenses while you're shooting, or if you're not with them at the time, make sure to set your bag down instead of carrying it on your shoulder. The entire time I was pregnant, I only walked around with my camera. I didn't carry anything else.

- Choose your gear wisely. I love shooting with the 70-200, but after just one wedding early in my second trimester, I knew that wasn't going to be a good idea. So I switched to the 50 mm with the 105 macro to get tight shots occasionally. (If you haven't tried it as a portrait lens, give it a whirl!)

- Stay hydrated and pack lots of snacks. Anytime we were in the car between locations, I was digging into the cooler for a snack. And I always made sure to grab some cheese and fruit during cocktail hour. These are things I usually do at weddings to keep my energy level up, but when I was pregnant,  the couple (and the bridesmaids and the mother of the bride and even the guests) would often ask me if I had eaten anything. People like to take care of pregnant ladies, and it will make them feel better to know you are taking care of yourself.

- Wear extra comfortable clothing. I wore biker shorts or leggings that had a belly panel under my dresses to give me a little extra support. And for my third trimester weddings, I wore a pregnancy support belt underneath my dress as well. Comfy shoes are also a must and switching halfway through the day is helpful, because your feet will hurt more than normal!

- Don't be afraid to ask for help. The bridesmaids will be happy to go get the bride's bouquet for you or fluff the bride's dress. And the groomsmen will gladly move chairs after the ceremony to make room for the family portraits.

- Don't hurry through the day. If you have the opportunity, plan the timeline to give you a little bit of extra cushion time throughout the day. Give yourself time to do your best work for the couple instead of rushing through the day. This extra breathing room will give you a chance to take a sip of water and go to the bathroom too!

- Don't stand on chairs. While I love standing on a chair during the reception to get good dancing shots when the dance floor is packed, it will make everyone nervous if you're noticeably pregnant. This is another great job for your second photographer.

- Take care of your body before and after. Drinking lots of water, elevating your feet, and getting a massage should all be part of your post wedding ritual while pregnant. And if you can help it, don't do anything the day after a wedding. Stay home and rest.

- Know that every wedding your body will be different. If your weddings are close together, you have the chance to constantly re-evaluate if something is too hard on your body. If you have a month or more in between weddings, it might be harder to know what you will need.

- Don't hesitate to bring an assistant if you think it might be beneficial for you. I'm going to share more about that in a blog post specifically about 3rd trimester weddings, but there are plenty of people who want to learn more about wedding photography and would love to help you on the wedding day in exchange for the knowledge and experience you can share with them.

 

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Life Right Now

Today we're throwing it back to an old series I started to help me remember some of the little moments of our lives. The kinds of things that don't even make it to Instagram (because we all know there's a LOT that doesn't make it to Instagram!) The kinds of things that would slip through the cracks of our memories if we didn't record them.

Life right now is wanting to order everything on Amazon Prime, just because we can.

Life right now is watching my belly dance like jello every time my little boy moves. It's especially fun to watch when I'm wearing a striped shirt.

Life right now is eating fruit all day long in an attempt to satisfy my sweet tooth when I really want ALL THE CHOCOLATE! (Maybe right after Halloween was a bad time to have a baby!)

Life right now is listening to Can't Stop the Feeling over and over. I'm still not sick of it yet!

Life right now is having my daddy tell me how big I am every time he sees me, and oddly enough I don't mind. (But don't anybody else try it!)

Life right now is enjoying the best new pumpkin candle, Pumpkin Donut by Yankee Candle. Yum!

Life right now is racing against an invisible clock to get CGP things wrapped up for the year. Not knowing when the little guy is going to arrive is the opposite of how I usually operate!

Life right now is teasing Lucy Kitten with pens, because it's just about the cutest thing to watch her play with.

Life right now is asking Ryan to reach all the high things and leaving stuff I've dropped on the floor for him to pick up hours later.

Life right now is being so ready to meet my little boy!

 

So much has changed in our lives in the last few months, and it's crazy to think about what life will be like in 2017.

Our little boy will be here, and I'll be able to kiss his sweet little face anytime I want.

While I know Ryan and I will miss him on long wedding days, we're glad our mamas will be able to take turns having 'Grandma Days' and going on special adventures with him.

And instead of Lucy getting all the cuddles on wedding recovery days, she'll have to share with him.

Traveling for CGP weddings around the state (or farther) would mean a fun little family weekend trip with Grandma!

 

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